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What Makes a Six a Six?

Here are some attributes that all Sixes share:

• Self-doubt (in fact, as I'm writing this, I'm thinking, "Should I say ALL? Maybe some Sixes don't struggle with self-doubt. Should I just say 'most Sixes'?" Which proves my point. I'm leaving it at ALL Sixes. If you are sure of yourself and never doubt your ability, your value, or your life, you aren't a Six.)
• Loyalty - I know you already. If you're a Six and full of self-doubt (see above), then you read this and thought, "I'm not sure I'm really loyal. I mean, maybe I'm loyal. I know I'm loyal to my family, though sometimes I feel disloyal because I don't always like every member of my family."
• Anxious - This doesn't always show up as typical anxiety. Sometimes it shows up as frenetic energy, nervousness, anger, etc. The common thing is that Sixes are worried something might go wrong or they are doing something incorrectly or they've done something stupid or someone is mad at them (and on and on). You'll hear about worst-case scenarios, but this doesn't always mean "end of the world -- a nuclear bomb just landed on your doorstep." See my blog post here to understand worst-case scenarios.
• Desire for safety and security - This shows up different for us all, but basically Sixes want to feel safe and secure and a lack of either makes them feel anxious. We often "take the temperature" of people around us to determine if we are safe and secure. I.e., "Suzy didn't respond right away to my text. Maybe she's mad at me. Did I do something to offend her?" = insecurity in a relationship.
  

Do any of these resonate with you? Which ones? Send me a message and let me know.

Practical Help for the Enneagram Type Six

When you found out you were a Six, did all the anxiety you've struggled with in your life finally make sense?

Do you wonder how you can become a healthy Six?

​Do you want to learn how to tackle the anxiety that's behind every step you take?

Do you feel burdened by all the overthinking?

Has anxiety haunted you for years?
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When you get stressed out, do you become competitive and not feel like yourself?

What if I don't know that I'm a Six?

One of the hallmarks of the Six is the inability to make up their mind, so there's a decent chance that if you've been second guessing yourself all around the enneagram, you're probably a Six! 
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When I first took a test, it said I was a One and that made sense to me. I definitely feel like there is a right way to do things! But I've realized that what's "right" is what's safe. 

For example, when my eldest daughter recently got her driver's license, the DPS made a big deal about how someone under 18 can't use their phone AT ALL while driving. I was all for that! Texting is dangerous!

But the DPS woman specifically said you can't use maps. How does one get from point A to B without Google Maps? I'd taught my daughter to follow the audible prompts on the map so she'd always be able to get where she was going without having to look at her phone.

Fast forward a couple weeks and my daughter is leaving our downtown church by herself at night. She can't remember exactly how to get home, so she looks on the map before she leaves the parking lot, then dutifully turns off her phone and starts heading home. Or at least she THOUGHT that's where she was headed.

She ended up in a sketchy part of town, at night, by herself, and pulled over to turn on her phone and look at the map. It scared me to death when I heard it! So now I tell her I'll pay the ticket if she gets one for using Google Maps while driving (and she still has to use it only audibly and for no other reasons!).

A One would follow the RULE, but a Six follows what's SAFE. 

From the Blog

Connect with the Body

Try Yoga

Sixes spend too much time in their head and need to reconnect with their bodies. Yoga is a great way to do that. If you've not tried yoga before, follow Yoga With Adriene.