When I took my first enneagram test, I came up as a One.
It made sense to me because I sure do like to follow rules.
This fact about myself drives my Eight husband CRAZY, but that's for another blog post. :-)
When I later figured out I was really a Six, the "following the rules" thing bothered me.
But then I realized, I only follow rules when I think they'll keep me safe.
I actually have no problem breaking what I consider stupid rules that I preceive to have no bearing on my safety or the safety of those I love.
Let me give you an example to clarify:
When my eldest daughter got her driver's license, the DPS made a big deal about how someone under 18 can't use their phone AT ALL while driving.
I was all for that! Texting is dangerous!
But the DPS woman specifically said you can't use even use Google maps.
How does one get from point A to B without Google maps??
I'd taught my daughter to follow the audible prompts on the map so she'd always be able to get where she was going without having to look at her phone.
Fast forward a couple weeks and my daughter was leaving our downtown church by herself at night.
She couldn't remember exactly how to get home, so she looked on Google maps before she left the parking lot, then dutifully turned off her phone and started heading home.
Or at least she THOUGHT that's where she was headed.
She ended up in a sketchy part of town, at night, by herself, and pulled over to turn on her phone and look at the map.
I was scared to death when I heard that!
She could have been killed! Car jacked! Or who knows what else?!
Following the Rule made my daughter LESS SAFE.
So now I tell her I'll pay the ticket if she gets one for using Google Maps while driving (and she still has to use it only audibly and for no other reasons!).
A One would follow the RULE and not use Google Maps, but a Six follows what they feel is SAFE.
If a Six felt safer following the 'no Google maps" rule, then they would, but it would be about the safety and not the rule itself.
What example can you share of when you've chosen to not follow a rule because breaking the rule was safer?